...see previous posts on "Guidelines"
Polarizing begins to take place when we start talking about each other instead of to each other. If it is group business, it needs to be addressed in the group.
I finished more than thirteen years (thirteen years, ten months) with the Berry's Chapel church of Christ April 1, 2007. Beginning in May 2007, Gail and I started working with congregations between preachers. Eddyville, Kentucky: May 2007 - August 2008; Hendersonville, Tennessee: October 2008 - December 2009; Collegeside, Cookeville, Tennessee: March 2010 - June 2011; LaVergne, Tennessee: August 2011 - June 2013; Maury City, Tennessee: September 2013 - present
As I was preparing to leave the congregation discussed in the last post, a question came up in a men’s meeting one night, “Jerrie is running around, trying out about every other Sunday. Are we paying him on the Sundays he is gone?” I was asked to explain.
“Yes, I am being paid”, I replied. “When I came here eight years ago, the elders and I agreed that if either of us decided it was time to terminate our relationship, I would be given ninety days with pay or until I found another congregation, whichever came first.” During those eight years, two of those elders had died. The third one had resigned.
Someone asked the resigned elder, “Is that the way it was?” He said, “It seems like we talked about that, but I don’t remember what we said.” I was in an embarrassing situation. After some discussion, a deacon who had been with the congregation since its beginning and who was the treasurer said, “Brethren, we have had that agreement with every preacher we have ever had and that is the way we will treat Jerrie.” The person who had asked the question was satisfied.
That was close. What did I learn from that? Contracts, job descriptions, and written agreements are not just for dishonest people. They are for good Christian forgetful people, for people who die, and for people who value relationships and harmony too much to leave it to chance and fragile memory.
I have had people suggest that it is not very spiritual to require a contract and a signature: “Back in my Daddy’s day, people made agreements and shook hands. Their word was their bond.” That’s fine if it worked for your Daddy. However, I have seen the truth in the Chinese proverb, “The palest ink is better than the best memory.” God must not have thought that writing an agreement was unspiritual. He has been recording His covenants with man for thousands of years. Yes, some of it was even written in stone.
I have learned that contracts are not for dishonest people. Contracts are to preserve and protect agreements made by dead people and forgetful people.
…to be continued…